It’s on the road that it becomes more a necessity than a pleasantry. Without consideration for others roads become far more dangerous. Therefore it’s always disappointing when a humble thank you isn’t forthcoming. However, there is a compensation. This sin of omission can be a good guide of people to avoid.
There are two places where I see this lack of courtesy on a regular basis. One is the road leading to my home, the other is one of the busiest places on Waiheke, the zebra crossing in the middle of Oneroa.
There’s only room for one car to pass en route to my house so someone has to give way. A raised hand to say thanks would be welcome, but sadly such an acknowledgment is only forthcoming maybe 50% of the time. Funnily enough, it’s no hardship to avoid half the people who live there.
About the same percentage goes for the zebra crossing in Oneroa. I know it’s a requirement for the motorist to stop when someone wants to cross but that shouldn’t stop the pedestrian from giving a nod or wave in the direction of the road user to say thank you.
I reckon you can tell everything you need to know about people from their behaviour at that crossing. In fact, if you’re thinking of entering into a relationship but are unsure if the person is right for you, there is no better litmus test of their personality than observing them as they cross there.
Here are some examples of the behaviour of those who fail to say thank you and why you should avoid having a relationship with them.
- Head down, don’t look left or right - an insular mentality
- Head up, don’t look left or right - a huge sense of entitlement
- Chatting to friend/phone/child in pram - a sense of self importance
- Stand at the entrance with no intention of crossing - a complete lack of awareness of the needs of others
- Stare at the road user as it they were the devil incarnate – an aggressive nature
- Walk across as slowly as possible – a classic passive/aggressive
Of course, you might consider such behaviour is exactly what you’re looking for in a partner. Good luck with that. See you in the divorce court in a couple of years time.